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What is true femininity
Julia Sviyash, psychologist, head of the Center for the Female Dimension, author of trainings and books on the development of femininity Every woman should have a drop of bitch. This trait helps to frame and communicate your needs.
True femininity - This is a state of mind, a feeling of inner happiness. According to my observations, only 5% of women live, realizing that the world is beautiful!
Female weakness - does not mean infantilism or stupidity. This is a feeling of fragility. A weak woman can be very solid, smart, successful. But at the same time, it is a flower that is vulnerable, and therefore I want to protect it. I always say: do not be afraid to be weak!
Also this skill to defend your borders, letting others know how you can be treated and how you can’t. And if the woman inside herself clearly said “no!”, The man will hear it. Every woman should have a drop of bitch. This is a trait that helps set the framework and state your needs where they are ignored. If a woman has wisdom, loves herself, then she will be extremely rare to show her character.
Wise woman sows a seed and waits patiently when it sprouts. If such a woman sees only a defensive reaction in the negative manifestation of those around her, she understands that people in their core are kind. Feminine girls spread human warmth around themselves and therefore enjoy great attention.
Try to regain respect for masculinity. Many women will say: let them first prove what to respect him for. But truth must be settled within a woman that does not require proof: a man is a god! Imagine how a woman used to look at a man: as a warrior, protector, father. With the feeling that he is a power, a messenger of God who is called to protect. And it doesn’t matter what kind of man it is. The main thing is to master the ability to look at him like that. Then the world of men around us begins to change magically.
This technique does not teach to worship blindly, it teaches to develop a certain quality in oneself. First, take this step, but there is a suitable object. And until we learn to see the best in men, they will continue to show us their worst traits.
Moms learn what interests them
Being a mom is so exciting!
Olga Ryabinkina, head of the Mamalysh club - an educational project for expectant mothers and mothers with babies from 0 to 6 years old Do not forget about yourself! It is necessary to rest yourself. Tired and irritated mom is stress for the baby.
I am sure: being a mother is an innate skill. When my first child was born, I did not attend any special courses, I did not learn anything in advance. She herself quickly mastered how to look after her son, developed her own tactics, strategy and methods of education. But, of course, when there is an opportunity to learn something from more experienced people, it is much better for mom.
I decided to found the Mamalysh Clubwhen my second child was three months old. I was then a nursing mother and once I could not attend a seminar that was very interesting to me. And she thought: “Surely not only I need a place where my mother can develop, while professionals are engaged in the child.” And so it all began ... Now we have such an opportunity in the club: the children study separately, and the mothers, meanwhile, learn what is interesting to them personally - from makeup lessons to start-up lectures.
My second son is now a year old, and I see the difference between how I related to raising the first child and how much easier it is for me with the second. And the matter is not only in the gained experience. I just got the opportunity to get new knowledge from professionals. I’m sure moms should learn all the time. In the classes at our club, we spend a lot of time teaching our mothers how to develop their children.
Huge mistakewhen mothers “put an end” to their entire previous (before the birth of a child) life and begin to build a new one around the newborn. Do not forget about yourself! Do not, as soon as the baby falls asleep, try to have time to remake everything around the house. Need to rest yourself! Tired and annoyed mom is a big stress for the baby. And do not worry, thinking that now all the holidays and trips will be unavailable for a long time. You can (and should) combine your interests with motherhood! After all, with the advent of a child, life does not become more complicated. It becomes richer and better.
When training, a person begins to look at himself differently
Fitness - a visible contribution to yourself
Natalia Bakhireva, author and instructor of the Fitness Balance program on the LIVE! TV channel, certified instructor of a number of fitness disciplines When you feel energetic, beautiful, your movements are full of femininity, what could be better ?!
I urge all women take time for yourself and play sports! At least an hour or two a week is already good. To begin with ... As a rule, women come to the gym for one purpose - to lose weight. But in the process of classes revaluation of values. When training, a person begins to look at himself differently, to feel his body and himself. Step by step, man is improving. And improving, learning to love yourself!
Sport is a way of life. If you want to look good and be healthy, you need to take care of yourself! Believe me, this is not difficult: fitness very quickly becomes a pleasant habit. First, the hormone of happiness is secreted during class, and it’s worth starting already for it. Secondly, there is an emotional discharge. Thirdly, sport is a real and visible contribution to oneself. Finally, as a bonus, an elastic athletic body. And when a woman is happy with herself, her posture is different, her gait is different, even her look changes. It has so much energy and vitality!
I know a mature woman it’s not easy to take the first step - to go to the gym or pool. Someone is shy of his figure, someone is just lazy. I'll try to find the right words and arguments. Do not put off until tomorrow. You need to start now! Also buy a beautiful shape. We are women, and we must like ourselves. Third: praise yourself. And be sure to say why you need sports. Find your motivation. Try different directions and look for what you like. As soon as you find, it is unlikely to give up on this. No way to go to the fitness club? Get involved at home - with the TV channel “LIVE!”.
And a few more recommendations and tips. Remember, sleep is crucial. Helps the body relax and recover. Try to eat more often, but in small portions. In the morning (until 13:00) you can afford everything you love. But in the evening, let the food be light and healthy. First, eat those dishes that are digested for a long time. The most important thing is to move! And then the changes will not take long.
How to find your own style?
Style is harmony
Oksana Hochfeld, stylist, image maker, shopper Do not neglect makeup, emphasize your natural beauty - the most powerful female weapon!
I always say to its clients: “Style is first of all harmony”. When the image of a woman coincides with her inner sense of self, when she is comfortable and comfortable in her clothes, this is visible and it attracts. But it’s a mistake to think that “comfortable” means familiar jeans, a sweater and boots. It can be conveniently in a dress and shoes. The heel transforms a woman, changes her posture and gait.
I often advise clientsaccustomed to wearing jeans, conduct an experiment: put on a dress and shoes not on the way out, but in everyday life. Later, women enthusiastically tell how the views of others around them have changed. An important point: often women who are dissatisfied with their figure, trying to hide extra pounds, understand by the word “dress” a hoodie that hides everything. But in fact, he makes the figure even bigger. To visually appear slimmer, you need to use expensive, form-containing fabrics and choose clothes of the right style.
A good option: buy expensive material and go to the tailor who will sew the suit, taking into account all the shortcomings of the figure. Let the costume be one, but expensive. In it you will always feel comfortable, which means you will look spectacular. And you can diversify the image with the help of blouses, stoles and accessories.
A few words abouthow to shop. Do not try to buy everything you like at once. Mark where and what you saw so that you might return later. Otherwise, your wardrobe will be filled with unnecessary and incompatible things. But, if in the end you find a thing that looks perfect on you, buy two identical, possibly different colors at once. You will never regret such a purchase.
And finally, I’ll reveal another secret: every woman needs to have at least one pink item in her wardrobe. Many believe that pink does not suit them. This is not so: pink goes to everyone! You just need to find your own shade from the whole gamut. When a man sees a woman in pink, he subconsciously begins to consider her defenseless, he wants to help her somehow. Pink is a powerful female weapon!
Get real pleasure from sex.
Learning about sexual techniques is a step towards knowing yourself and your desires.
Ekaterina Lyubimova, founder and chief sex coach of the training center "SEKS.RF" My task is to help women sexually liberate themselves and more confidently fulfill their desires!
According to statistics, 30% of women get real pleasure from sex, they often intuitively understand what to do and how. 40% try, study and are open to experiments, and 30% do not know anything and are embarrassed not only to discuss, but even think about it. But if you want, you can always try to fix the situation. And open sexually, take your body and become more confident in yourself. After all, sex is one of the aspects of life that cannot be ignored.
My task is to help a woman Feel self-confidence. And in this sense, the study of various sexual techniques is a step towards knowing oneself and one's desires. My trainings are not only acquaintance with new information, acquisition of new skills. This is an attempt to remove psychological barriers, remove the clamp and begin to openly talk about those topics about which we are so eloquent silent even with our partners. The main obstacle to the development of sexual relations is the fear that the partner will refuse to try what his lover / lover dreams about.
Before you tell at the training on how to achieve vaginal orgasm with the help of physical exercises, it is necessary for the woman to ask: “What is an orgasm and why I don’t experience it?” This recognition requires us to do some internal work and ... courage. Indeed, the lack of orgasm can be perceived as a defect, a flaw, and who wants to admit it?
So the sexual emancipation that we acquire, in a sense, is the result of our internal psychological efforts, an attempt to understand ourselves, our desires. And the recognition that sex is a very important aspect of the relationship between adults and mature people. If a woman wants to experience a vaginal orgasm in the evening, she needs to start fantasizing about him in the morning.
Why are trainings so popular?
Reasons for the popularity of training
No wonder they say a new life is just new thoughts. Think and act like a woman and be happy!
The prototype of women's courses and seminars in Russia can be called the Smolny Institute of Noble Maidens, opened in 1764 by decree of Catherine II, the first Russian educational institution in Russia.
It taught reading, writing, Russian, French, German grammar, geography, history and arithmetic, taught boarders "dancing, drawing, the beginnings of music and needlework, characteristic of the female gender." The opening of the institute laid the foundation for female secondary education. After the death of Catherine II, Paul I instructed his wife, Empress Maria Fedorovna, to oversee all charitable and female educational institutions in Russia. The reforms of Maria Fedorovna radically changed the character of the Educational Society.
The broad humane-social tasks posed by Catherine II to the created new type of closed educational institutions disappeared by themselves and were replaced by narrower, purely female ones. Therefore, instead of the book “On the Positions of a Man and a Citizen”, which was read in Catherine’s times, when Maria Fedorovna began to read and explain the book “Fatherly Advice to My Daughter”.
So, for example, it said: “A woman must be a perfect seamstress, weaver, stockist and cook; to divide their existence between the nursery and the kitchen, the cellar, the barn, the yard and the garden. ”
There are a lot of suggestions on the Internet and the media on how to develop femininity, reveal yourself, return to the roots ... But the question is: when did we lose these skills and why? What happens to a modern woman? And what is the reason for the growing popularity of training? Psychologists have their own point of view.
Maria Rakitina, female psychologist:
- Today, women continue to dream of a relationship with a man so that he is there, but the idea that she just needs a man and that without him she is not a woman seems scary and unacceptable. Independence is what attracts women today.
- Today, an independent woman lives with her mind, plans and goals; she refuses feelings, bodily sensations. We are not talking about love in the life of such a woman. The husband, as a rule, becomes an application to her plans. And such a woman seems to lose touch with her gender. Sexual relationships also fail. There are plenty of such couples where sex has become a matter of habit or has disappeared altogether.
- The reason also lies in the rejection of their feminine nature. Any woman in her heart feels dissatisfaction with herself as a woman, emptiness, fatigue, loneliness, fear. And having realized, he is looking for a solution and a way out of the situation.
Recall female nature
Alla Dalit, practicing psychologist, vice president and trainer of the United Russian Community of Psychological Counseling:
- A woman who has survived in the male world for hundreds of years has become dangerous today for herself, for the world, and for men. She looks more like a mutant - with a beautiful appearance and a completely masculine filling.
- It is we women who educate those who kill this planet, love, nature, people. When a woman receives in her full possession a helpless little man, her son, it is difficult for her to resist the desire to avenge centuries of humiliation. All this, however, is covered by the noble idea of motherly love, which is becoming all-consuming. There is no place for a male father, freedom of choice, or ... another woman. Homosexuality, which has never been so prevalent as it is now, is essentially a man’s deepest choice not to deal with a woman who suppressed the masculine principle in him.
- Jung wrote that the feminine nature inside a man is like a lantern that illuminates his essence and shows him the way. The woman outside must be this light. Bright, honest, warm.
- The goal of the trainings is the need to recall their original nature and find ways to realize it in the modern world.
Ekaterina Altynnikova, leader of women's trainings, coach:
- Women began to search for themselves, their meaning, purpose, happiness, satisfaction from life. Indeed, most women already have a lot of what they wanted, but there is no inner satisfaction ...
- Women have lost a Woman. We accepted the male world and began to live like men, imitating them: faster, stronger, more efficient. But women and men are different in nature - hormonal, energetic.Men are more successful in transforming the outside world. For a woman, harmony in her inner space is of primary importance, and through her inner space she is able to transform the world. In order to survive, to obtain "mammoths", they sometimes have to close their hearts from pain. But closing their hearts, they cannot open up love and intuition.
- Why, 10–20 years ago, there was no such massive need for these trainings: discovering femininity, understanding oneself? Soviet and perestroika time is the time of materialism. Most women had no time to think about femininity. It was necessary to earn money, get food and feed the family. Today, many mature women admit that they would readily read a book on femininity, go to training at the time, but then there was no such access to information. Now, for many women, basic material needs are satisfied, material dreams are fulfilled, but there is no feeling of happiness ...
- I think that in 30–40 years the situation may change. During this time, women who are now exploring their femininity will learn to accept themselves and raise their daughters and granddaughters already feminine. And then the need for these trainings and practices will disappear. At least I want to hope so.
For you VS for work
Unlike psychological trainings, whose popularity is only growing, the rating of professional ones is falling, and management is sending less and less of its subordinates to seminars and courses.
To the question: “Have you ever attended professional trainings, intensive continuing education courses?” - 55% of respondents gave a positive answer. Among the participants in the courses and seminars there are more men (57%) than women (54%). Most often, trainings are attended by Russians aged 35–45 years. At the same time: 61% of Russians believe that additional education increases the professional level; 43% said that courses foster healthy self-esteem. Source: SuperJob.ru Recruitment Portal Research Center